Post by gavin on Apr 18, 2013 17:27:06 GMT -5
i'm putting this in rants and raves despite it being neither of those, because i can't really figure out where else it should go. i'm nervous, but here goes.
i guess this is my official coming-out letter. as long as i have known all of you fine people, you've known me as gavin, a transgender male. i've never hidden it or tried to divert from it, but this is changing a little, and i hope that you'll continue to be as supportive as you've always been, because you all mean a lot to me.
i'm no longer identifying as male. it's something i've been struggling with for a while now, because i assumed that if i knew i wasn't a female, what other choice did i have? but a lof of self-exploration has taught me that using binary gender in general is not something that makes me happy, because neither extreme end describes me accurately.
what i'm asking is that from here on out, you use the neutral pronouns they, them and theirs when you refer to me. this does not mean i have abandoned transitioning medically, and i am still saving for surgery, but stuffing myself into an entirely male or female box has only proved to suffocate me and make me feel like a depressed liar, and i don't feel inclined to subject myself to it any longer.
if you have any questions, please don't be afraid to ask. i am open to private messages on the board, and i'm also keeping a blog about my specific struggles with binary socialization, which you can read here: fleasuscrust.tumblr.com
i love you all, grey fam.
i guess this is my official coming-out letter. as long as i have known all of you fine people, you've known me as gavin, a transgender male. i've never hidden it or tried to divert from it, but this is changing a little, and i hope that you'll continue to be as supportive as you've always been, because you all mean a lot to me.
i'm no longer identifying as male. it's something i've been struggling with for a while now, because i assumed that if i knew i wasn't a female, what other choice did i have? but a lof of self-exploration has taught me that using binary gender in general is not something that makes me happy, because neither extreme end describes me accurately.
what i'm asking is that from here on out, you use the neutral pronouns they, them and theirs when you refer to me. this does not mean i have abandoned transitioning medically, and i am still saving for surgery, but stuffing myself into an entirely male or female box has only proved to suffocate me and make me feel like a depressed liar, and i don't feel inclined to subject myself to it any longer.
if you have any questions, please don't be afraid to ask. i am open to private messages on the board, and i'm also keeping a blog about my specific struggles with binary socialization, which you can read here: fleasuscrust.tumblr.com
i love you all, grey fam.